Your Mindset is Your Lens
For the longest time, I avoided smiling in photos because I thought keeping a straight face made me look “cooler”. Looking back, I realize I wasn’t just trying to look cool—I was taking myself too seriously. This tiny habit was a reflection of a mindset that kept me from showing up authentically. It wasn’t until I started asking myself why I was holding back in this instance (and other areas of my life) did I see the bigger picture.
You can think of your mindset like a pair of sunglasses you wear. If the lenses are scratched, fogged, or tinted, your perception of the world is distorted. But as you wear them, this becomes your new normal. You don’t realize how your mindset shapes the perception of your reality until you stop and adjust your lens.
This distortion can come in many forms, including limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, or a constant pessimistic view.
Maybe it’s the mindset of:
1. Seeing setbacks as failures instead of learning opportunities.
2. Trying to be perfect, in hopes that the people around you will think that you are.
3. Feeling like you’re not good enough and fearing judgement, so you hold back from showing vulnerability that could lead to deeper and more meaningful connections.
But here’s the good news: just like how you can swap out your glasses for a clearer prescription, you can refine your mindset to see the world—and yourself—more clearly. Self-awareness is the tool that can help you pause, reflect, and confront what’s not working for you.
But here’s the good news: just like how you can swap out your glasses for a clearer prescription, you can refine your mindset to see the world—and yourself—more clearly. Self-awareness is the tool that can help you pause, reflect, and confront what’s not working for you.
Hindsight is 20/20
Looking back on your life, you can often see how your choices, habits, and mindset have led you to where you are today. Hindsight is a gift because it allows you to connect the dots and recognize unconscious patterns that persist.
Maybe you’ve always felt stuck in certain areas of your life, like relationships or your career. Have you stopped to ask yourself why? What beliefs or habits might have contributed to those outcomes?
Life is uncertain, and that’s what makes it exciting. But understanding where you’ve been gives you a sense of your life’s trajectory. A simple question you can ask yourself is: “If I kept doing what I'm doing, would I feel fulfilled if I was in the same situation 10 years from now”?
With greater self-awareness, you give yourself the power to adjust your course.
With greater self-awareness, you give yourself the power to adjust your course.
Taking the Steering Wheel
Self-awareness is like cleaning those foggy lenses. It allows you to see your life more objectively. This clarity can be uncomfortable — it’s hard to admit when something isn’t working. But is it better to hide your problems in the fog in hopes that it will clear up by itself, or will you empower yourself with the decision to intentionally change? Just remember that many fogs in our lives don’t just go away, they often compound over time when we don’t address them.
When I realized my habit of not smiling in photos stemmed from taking myself too seriously, it made me question where else I might be holding myself back because of unnecessary expectations and unresolved conflicts (both internal and external). And that realization led to greater self-acceptance.
Self-awareness isn’t about being harsh on yourself; it’s about being radically honest. When you’re honest with yourself (and others), you stop being a passenger in your own life. You give yourself the power to take the wheel and choose whether you want to steer towards growth, authenticity, and fulfillment.
Questioning Your Perspective
1. What beliefs or habits are shaping your current reality, and are they serving you?
2. If you were completely honest with yourself, what areas of your life need attention or change?
3. How can you refine your mindset to align with the life you want to create?
Refining Your Point of View
When you combine self-awareness with intentional action, you gain the ability to refine your trajectory. You stop reacting to life and start creating it. You become the very mindset that you choose to adopt. This process doesn’t just lead to a better life—it leads to a truer and more aligned version of you.
By embracing your imperfections and taking yourself less seriously, you actually liberate yourself from the filters you’ve been living behind. You become more authentic, more accepting of yourself, and more hopeful about the future.
Life is too precious to spend it watching from the sidelines. If your mindset feels like a scratched lens, take the time to clean it. Be honest with yourself, even when it’s hard. The clarity you gain will help you shape a life that feels aligned and purposeful.
So, what’s one belief or habit you’re ready to examine today? The clearer your lens, the better your journey will be. And the best part? You’ll be in the driver’s seat, steering towards a life you’re proud to call your own.
Sincerely,
Sincerely,
Dexter Lam
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