Meet Dexter Lam | Mindset Coach and Founder of Letter for Better

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Hey there, I'm Dexter. For over a decade, I've been obsessed with personal development and fostering a growth mindset. I've spent thousands of hours learning about psychology, identity shifting, and finding my "why". My curiosity started from a constant feeling like I was just going through the motions of life and not knowing how to tap into my potential. The reality is, many of us want to create deeper meaning in our lives, which starts with being able to figure out what drives us (our north star). For myself, it's the enjoyment I get from connecting and helping my clients to transform their lives through proven systems.

Discovering your purpose and direction (north star).
Helping you to diversify and shift your identity.
Identifying your version of success.
Building self-discipline and confidence.
Supporting you in ideating a career move.
Raising your level of self-awareness (to know yourself better).
Improving relationships & setting boundaries.
Reprogramming your mind to manifest what you want in life.
Developing (and eliminating) habits that will move you closer to your goals.
Working with you to create a vision for your dream life and action steps to get you there.

"I struggle with self-confidence and imposter syndrome."
"I have my career in order, but i'm having difficulty finding a romantic partner."
"I am not treated fairly or kindly by people around me."
"I feel lost in life and want to make a positive change."
"I want to exercise more but I lack the discipline to stay consistent."
"I have trouble managing my time, energy, and focus."
"I am overwhelmed with juggling work, family, and friends."
"I constantly overthink and have trouble making decisions."
"I don't get the respect I feel I deserve."
"I have negative thoughts that make me insecure (but people don't know)."

Get an honest and unbiased perspective on your situation.
Enjoy a safe space where you can share your personal thoughts and emotions.
Explore ways to step outside of your comfort zone and make a change.
Discover divergent thinking patterns to solve a life problem.
Dig deep into self-limiting beliefs and unconscious patterns that are not serving you.
Have a non-judgemental sounding board.
Receive direct and unfiltered feedback (tough love).
Learn alternative ways to communicate to friends, family, or colleagues.
Get encouraging and optimistic motivation to pursue your passions.

Develop a clear action plan

Create a roadmap that guides your actions and ensures your progress. By breaking them down into attainable steps you can track.

Restore your momentum

Reignite your passion and drive. Reframe setbacks as opportunities for growth so you can maintain forward momentum and stay committed to your goals.

Build attraction & charisma

Change your self-perception to naturally create magnetic energy around people. With a mindset of genuine interest, you can create authentic connections.

Replace limiting beliefs with empowering ones

Free yourself from self-imposed constraints (or ones from your environment). Cultivate resilience by embracing a growth mindset.

Define your version of success

Understand what truly matters to you. By avoiding the pitfalls of what others deem successful, you can create a vision of success that is fulfilling to you.

Gain clarity on your life's purpose

Reflect on your passions, strengths, and weaknesses. Uncovering your true purpose will give you deep security in guiding your actions and decisions.

What a typical 1:1 engagement looks like with me

1. Exploratory Session (30 min)

We start with a 30-minute session to determine if we have the right chemistry to work together. We'll discuss your goals, challenges, and what you hope to achieve through life coaching. This initial meeting helps us both decide if we're a good fit to move forward.

2. Deep Dive Sessions (1 hr each)

If we’re a match, we move into comprehensive 1-hour sessions where we evaluate and identify areas for improvement. Open and honest conversations are crucial, because this will allow us to dive deep into your current situation, challenges, and aspirations to pinpoint specific areas for growth. These sessions will allow me to lay the groundwork for creating your personalized game plan.

3. Personalized Game Plan & Tracking

Based on our deep dive sessions, I will craft a step-by-step game plan with actionable strategies you can implement. We will review your progress regularly, track your achievements, and make necessary adjustments to ensure continuous improvement. This phase ensures that your development is measurable and sustainable.

4. Graduation or New Goal Setting

As you reach your initial goals, we can either continue to explore new areas for improvement or prepare for graduation. The frequency of our sessions can be adjusted depending on your ongoing needs and progress. This step ensures that your improvements are maintained and that you have the kick-ass confidence to pursue new challenges independently.

Uncover your passions, values, and core beliefs (what sets your heart on fire).
Build greater awareness of yourself and people around you.
Develop radical self-acceptance to boost your self-esteem.
Rank your priorities.
Identify and challenge self-limiting beliefs.
Practice visualization and identity shifting techniques.
Challenge beliefs that are not serving you.
Strategize a game plan that you can aim towards achieving.

What my clients are saying

Working with Dexter at Letter for Better has been a transformative experience for me. Before we started, I struggled with prioritizing what really mattered in my life, constantly feeling overwhelmed and unfocused. Through his insightful guidance and support, Dexter helped me gain clarity on my goals and values. He provided practical strategies and a fresh perspective that allowed me to zero in on what’s truly important. Thanks to his coaching, I now have a clear vision for my future and feel more empowered to pursue it. I highly recommend Dexter at Letter for Better to anyone seeking to find their direction and achieve personal growth.

Ali M.

I would like to express a big thank you to Dexter for his help on my anxiety issues related to work and ocd. I find him as someone who is caring, non judgemental, patient, empathetic, honest and most importantly will make you accountable for your actions. So far, his sessions had been more than helpful by making me identify that some of my negative thought processes is actually within my control which i didnt seem to realize before attending his sessions. Very sincere, insightful and clear in providing practical solutions which works for personal life and career. Really goes the extra mile for his clients. Highly recommended!

Chris S.

Ahmad T.

I would like to express a big thank you to Dexter for his help on my anxiety issues related to work and ocd. I find him as someone who is caring, non judgemental, patient, empathetic, honest and most importantly will make you accountable for your actions. So far, his sessions had been more than helpful by making me identify that some of my negative thought processes is actually within my control which i didnt seem to realize before attending his sessions. Very sincere, insightful and clear in providing practical solutions which works for personal life and career. Really goes the extra mile for his clients. Highly recommended!

Chris S.

What my clients are saying

Working with Dexter at Letter for Better has been a transformative experience for me. Before we started, I struggled with prioritizing what really mattered in my life, constantly feeling overwhelmed and unfocused. Through his insightful guidance and support, Dexter helped me gain clarity on my goals and values. He provided practical strategies and a fresh perspective that allowed me to zero in on what’s truly important. Thanks to his coaching, I now have a clear vision for my future and feel more empowered to pursue it. I highly recommend Dexter at Letter for Better to anyone seeking to find their direction and achieve personal growth.

Ali M.

I would like to express a big thank you to Dexter for his help on my anxiety issues related to work and ocd. I find him as someone who is caring, non judgemental, patient, empathetic, honest and most importantly will make you accountable for your actions. So far, his sessions had been more than helpful by making me identify that some of my negative thought processes is actually within my control which i didnt seem to realize before attending his sessions. very sincere, insightful and clear in providing practical solutions which works for personal life and career. Really goes the extra mile for his clients. Highly recommended!

Chris. S

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